How can I stay strong being an unmarried young mom with a son that has a rare disability?

Somedays I dont know what to do. Im 19 and I work hard to be happy. My son was born with Morning Glory Syndrome and he struggles to see. Im currently in school struggling to get money to survive so he can have a better future. Some days I go without eat to make sure he has milk. My boyfriend works 2 jobs but that isnt enough. I moved back in with my parents but im constantly put down for being a bad mom. When I go in public people taunt and call me names especially when my boyfriend is not around.



How do I stay strong when my future looks so bleak? Im trying to make it but im scared im going to have to leave my parents house because of everything! I dont know where to go or what to do. I dont work and I do alot of volunteering everywhere trying to get a good job but everywhere I turn no one will help!



Is there anything I can do my sons disability takes alot of money and we dont know what to do

How can I stay strong being an unmarried young mom with a son that has a rare disability?
You ARE Strong Honey! You are a Mummy, with a very special little man now, who will give you the strength you need to get through this.



I can't even imagine what it must be like for you...I'm in tears. You really touched my heart, with your story. I feel for you, being a Mummy myself.



I know you feel helpless, and the future may seem bleak, and hopeless. It would be hard to know what to do...Well stop wondering what you should do - You are definitely doing everything you can already. You have done really well.



Give yourself some credit. It takes a strong person to have come as far as you have. I admire your pro-active approach. Action is the only way to change a situation. Just thinking won't get you anywhere, but disappointed.



Try not to exhaust yourself too much. You sound like your running yourself ragged, which I know may seem like the only solution, but you need to make sure your Health, both physically and emotionally, are being addressed too Sweetie.



The best thing you can do for all of you right now, is to try to focus a little on this each day. Excesses, good nutrition and Positivity (this one may need quite a bit of practise to perfect...I still can't seem to do it in the face of adversity myself)



I've never heard of Morning Glory Syndrome. Is it a rare disorder, and is there any chance of his vision being partially or somewhat restored in the future with surgery or the like (if you are lucky enough to have Private Health Insurance that is....) What does his Doctor say. Maybe it would be helpful to just to make an enquiry, despite your money hassles. You never know what the future has in store for you.



I don't know what sort of system your own Government is based upon, but here in Australia, Social Security pays out a pretty reasonable Disability Pension.



REMEMBER:

You are a Mummy.

You are a fighter.

You are Brave and much stronger than you realise.

You are so very lucky. So is your little guy. He has you.

You WILL SURVIVE. You have too much going for you not to. I promise you that.



When you are my age you will realise the cliche, the hard times will make you stronger, wiser, and ultimately a better, happier and more fulfilled and empathetic person is actually very, very true.



You are doing absolutely everything in your power to try to over-come these obstacles.



Remember, that's all they are - Obstacles. And, Disability or not, Kids tend to attract these like magnets! You wait till he becomes a mischievous, cheeky little Pre-school. Ooh, they can talk your ear off! Cheeky monkeys!



Your little angel really is a blessing in disguise - a realisation only time will reveal. Mark my words Sweetie. It's just too Stressful for you to see right now. I can't even begin to imagine Hun...



Ignore others who resort to childish name-calling. They simply haven't experienced the harsh reality that life will eventually bestow upon them yet. Naivety is a phase. Reality is not. Their time will come. Don't let them get to you Hun. People who tease others, generally have bigger insecurities of their own...



Just remember, this precious and wonderful little boy is going to change your life - for the better. In a million a one amazingly beautiful ways. You were picked to be his Mummy for a reason. You are special, just like him. And never forget it.



And, as hard as it sounds, if you compare all the riches in the world, all the Stress, the frustration, the anger, confusion and pain you must be feeling right now, when you hold him and he says "I love you Mummy", this alone will make everything else seem insignificant to the love you will share with each other. Love is eternal. What your feeling right now is not.



Thank you Sweetie, for making me appreciate just how lucky I really am to be blessed with healthy Children. I am thinking of you and hope to hear how you are all going in a few months, when things settle down a bit. This too,will pass.



All my Love

---Gracie
Reply:Keepimg on praying for enlightenment. Do not lose hope, you are strong and can carry the burden. Have a poitive outlook.
Reply:God Bless you and your family. Though it seems like things are hard right now, but if you have faith things will get better.

It seems like your boyfriend is trying which is a good thing.



Since you aren't married there should be government, programs (city, state, or federal) that you could quailify for that could help you with housing, school, especially food. Check with a social worker. Are you a member of a church. Many churches have ways to help single moms having problems.



When I was in Florida, Public Assistance help me and my wife (now ex) with food, they paid for me and my wifes college, day care for my lil girls, and they even gave me gas vouchers for my car. You just have to go for yours, and remember....you're working hard for that brighter day.





God Bless you and your family.
Reply:I wish you all the luck,May God help you.i am really moved ,i wish i can help you.
Reply:well the first thing you could try and do is find a better job that pays you better money. And secondly, couldn't you try and claim benefits from the government cause of your son's disability? wish you all the luck :D